I am WAY over due for Luca and a life with two kiddos update! I have really lagged on his updates one because life has NEVER been more busy than right now (more on that below) but also because I have really struggled with just how much of my kids I want to share on the internet. It's so crazy to know that some of you have been following my blog since before I was pregnant with Ava! I truly feel like i've come to know so many of you and am so thankful for all the love and support you girls constantly show!When I first started blogging I felt like it was such a small tight knit community and now as the blog grows so does the exposure to the crazy world of the internet. There's so much of my life I want to share but at the same time i'm hesitant because after all it is the internet. So it's a constant battle in my mind about what to share and what not to share etc. If you've noticed most of the pics on my instagram I try my best to only show the back of Ava's head etc but on the other hand i'm a proud mama and want to share with you guys too. So I go back and forth on that all time and have tried to scale back a little on the kiddos. I hope you can understand xo
Okay now on to a little life update around here!
(Someone look like daddy much?! ;)
Luca already has his two bottom teeth and is working on cutting his third...yikes! He is already up on all four and rocking back and fourth! We put him down on his play mat and he can completely do a 360 turning himself around and reaching for anything he can get his little hands on! I think the crawling is very soon to follow! We introduced rice cereal and lots of different stage 1 foods already too and needless to say my babes love to eat! I can't get enough of the thigh, cheek and arm roll yumminess ;)
(Nap time never looked soooo sweet!)
(I mean this little squishy face!!)
I asked you girls on instagram last week if you had specific questions for me so today I am answering them below. So here we go.......
The first few months sleep was ALL over the place which was to be expected. We had a lot of rough nights and basically as most newborn stages go you're just in survival mode until they start sleeping longer stretches.
(These quiet moments are truly the best part of my day! His little dinosaur jammies from Old Navy)
(Big sis sweetness!)
So Ava no longer naps. It was too difficult trying to get her to nap with her school schedule and to be honest we kind of like the fact that she goes to bed much earlier! If she naps then bed time is pushed way back so we'd rather her just go down early. They both are in bed by 7pm and usually up between 6 and 7 the next morning. We seriously are both exhausted by the time bath time rolls around and NEED that quiet alone time together just the two of us to recharge and just veg out together. With two it's so constant that the "us" time can easily be put on the back burner but we both make an effort to try to put down the computers and phones and make time for each other. It's SO important to still nourish our relationship too.
Luca doesn't have a set nap schedule either. To be honest when there's two i'm not sure how you can really map that out everyday. I was really hoping with the second babe he would just kind of roll with it and he does! He has certain sleep patterns but they change as he grows so were not locked down to anything yet. Maybe when his naps condenses down to a longer one or two i'll be a bit better with it but for now he naps in the car, stroller and on the go (and I really like that). I'm so busy taking Ava around to all of her stuff that its hard to have a set nap schedule for him.
How has Ava done with the adjustment?
You know this has probably been the HARDEST part about life with two. The first month was really tough. It was a bit of an adjustment for all of us actually. She was super excited about him and wanted to hold him all the time but then totally had her moments where she reverted back to acting like a baby and just wanting all the attention. Then she had a couple great months and thought she was totally on board but occasionally has random weeks where she is SUPER clingy and needy for mama.
I don't know if its the "three stage" or the fact that she now shares the spotlight with someone else but its just a roller coaster lately and were just never sure which Ava where going to get depending on the day lol. Some days everything goes smooth I'm like "I got thisss"!! Then other days my husband will text and ask how's it going and only get the gun emojicon in reply lol.
I mean just look at these two little hamburgers! He's almost as big as she is but she totally thinks he's her baby ;)))
What's the hardest part about having a toddler and a baby?
Hmmm good question! I think the hardest part is like what I talked about above with the adjustment for Ava but also struggling with the mom guilt of trying to balance the attention. Obviously you have a little baby that is literally attached to you because they need you for everything but then I have to also remember it's a HUGE change for Ava as well. I have to remember she is only three (because she's such an old soul) and has had us all to herself so it has to be difficult for her as well.
Does Luca sleep in bed with you?
No he slept in a co sleeper and then we switched to this rock n play and found him to sleep a little bit better in it. At around 3+ months he started unswaddling himself and rolling over so we moved him into his crib in his nursery pretty early on.
Are you Sleep Training him? If so what method?
With Ava we did sleep training and even though it was a really rough for those two weeks it was the best thing we could have done. She was a lot more work to get to sleep and I was so exhausted everyday of being the only one who could get her to sleep. I had every intention of doing the same with Luca but to be honest he is so much easier to put to sleep I haven't really had to do it. I try to let him fuss a little bit for nap time because I wanted him to find his thumb (he actually sucks his two middle fingers...so cute) and put himself to sleep. At night time he is so tired he usually falls right to sleep after feeding so there's no need. If he cries during the night I usually wait a couple minutes and see if he can find his fingers and put himself back to sleep. Sometimes he does and sometimes he gets really worked up so i'll go in after a few minutes and nurse him back to sleep (it takes only a couple minutes and he is back down). I try not to change him during the night because that really wakes him up.
For nap time (at home) if he cries more than 5 minutes i'll go in and pat his back to try to calm him down until he finds his fingers. If that doesn't work I pick him up, rock/shush him etc to get him calm again then put him down again (and then he's usually down). With Ava we waited more like 10-15 minutes. All babies are different so you just have to find what works best for you and your family.
Body adjustment differently this time around? Where do you find the time to workout?
Still to be determined ;) So I gained about the same as I did with Ava this time around (maybe a few lbs more) but I still have a few more lbs to go to get back to my pre baby weight. Lets just be clear pre baby weight and pre baby shape are two different things ;) I am very happy with my progress so far but have always been really hard on myself where I want my body to be. I love working out and just feeling in shape so my expectations of where I want to be are high. That being said life with two is even more exhausting than I thought it would be. I have always preached that I would make time to workout because it's something that was always been important to me (oh one of the many things we all said and swore we would and would not do before we actually had our own kids ;) but obviously that was before reality of two kids set in. I will say so far things look like they're headed back to normal but I remember as with my first pregnancy my body really didn't start feeling fully back to its old self until after 7- 8 months postpartum.
I was working out more consistently though after my first pregnancy so this month I have really tried to step it up and make my work outs more of priority wherever I can fit them in. Even if they are a little something here or there. I have a treadmill at home and try to hop on it when Ava was in school and Luca would nap (but her being out of school for the Summer really throws this mamas free time off ;) Or even something simple like doing some squats/abs in the living room if everyone is playing and entertained for a few minutes. Right now i'm just trying to eat well and do what I can when I can.
How do you get ready with two kids?
Ummm it's called mastering your 5 minute makeup routine, some wide brim hats and lots of sunnies! Week days it's all about some tinted moisturizer, concealer and mascara. Luckily I dont have to wash my hair but every few days so i'll wash it at night and let it air dry. Then the next day i'll tame it with with my blow dryer and round brush and add some simple beach waves with my curling iron. Usually Ava is playing in her toy room and I have Luca in his pack n play or bouncy.
Schedule what your normal day looks like?
To be continued...that's a long on so if you girls are interested i'll put together a full post with that one!
What have you done differently this time around?
Hmmm like most moms will say the second time around you just let so much more slide. I'm not making my own baby food, I started introducing formula a lot sooner, and not jumping at every little peep your baby makes. We always joke and sarcastically say "wow, mom of the year" but kids are pretty resilient and as long as you show them love, make them the priority and try to your best you're doing the best in my book.
Are you still exclusively breastfeeding?
No, I am still breastfeeding but only about 50% of the day now. We introduced formula at around 4 months because trying to get the kids out of the house with all their stuff takes forever as is let alone having to sit down and pump before you head out every time! I will say be careful when you do start to introduce it though because what starts out as one bottle a day quickly snowballs into multiple bottles a day.
How have the placenta pills worked out?
I still have not taken them ;( I'm bummed I couldn't be of more help for you girls who were curious about them. As mentioned when I delivered I had a horrible cold (as if child birth wasn't hard enough). You're not supposed to take the pills if you have anything else going on with your body because its believed to amply those symptoms so I wanted to wait till it totally went away to start taking them. Well two weeks went by and while I still was recovering from the cold the baby blues didn't seem to pop up so I never took them!
While it was a bummer I'm also kind of glad I didn't because if I had I would be over here swearing to you that it must have been the placenta pills. So for any of you who have taken them please feel free to share your experience with them! I'm curious about them as i've heard mixed things and I'm sure lots of other mothers would love to know more too!!
Will there be baby #3?
Lets just say we're not planning on it as of now. Our hands are SUPER full so thought of another gives me anxiety just thinking about it ;)
How do you find the age difference is between your kids?
I am really happy with the age difference. My husband was ready to get started on number two right away but I was so overwhelmed that I couldnt even think about having another babe until Ava was about two! I knew it was going to be crazy with two so I wanted to make sure she was potty trained, in her big girl bed and in school a couple days a week. All of those things helped out tremendously this time around! So YES! I am super happy with the age difference.
How do you manage to get everything done in your household?
The answer is I don't! It's been a hard adjustment and truthfully a bit stressful because I always feel like my to do list is NEVERRR ending. I'm lucky to have Ava in school a few days (counting down till Summer break is over ;) and my husbands schedule is flexible in the mornings but everyday is still a struggle to get everything done. Between blogging full time, laundry, grocery, cooking taking care of two kiddos, a needy hubby and making a little time for myself too the household tends to be the first thing to slack. Even this post has been in the works for 5 days now (granted its a long one) but finding the time to sit down and write is a challenge too.
I've mentioned before that I can be a bit of a control freak but i'm beginning to realize you just can't do it all and that's ok. I try to organize as much a possible but as soon as I clean up it looks like a toddler bomb went off in the house again. My dinners are not as amazing as they used to be but I try to make healthy simple meals in larger servings so that I don't have to cook every night.
I "struggle with the juggle" on the daily but I try prioritize and just do what I can. No matter what I have on my to do list I make it a point every afternoon to shut down my computer and phone, leave the house with dishes in the sink and stuff everywhere to take my kids out of the day and spend some one one time doing fun things with them. So my house looks a bit crazy most of the day and my to do list never has as many things crossed off as i'd like but those things can wait.
What are your favorite Baby Products?
If you've been following my blog for awhile you girls have probably seen a lot of these items before! These are our go to products and some we've been using for years!
I hope this was helpful for you moms and mamas to be! As always obviously every babe and family are different this is just my personal experience with it all! If you have helpful tips or favorite products you couldn't do without too please share as i'm sure other mamas reading this would love to hear!!